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#0, by stoner_x, 12 February 2011 05:18 AM

My dad is in recovery. He'll have ten years this St. Patrick's Day. He said something to me one time that was a moment of awakening. It was difficult for me to quit because it was difficult for me to see the consequences of using. You can't OD from weed. I've never been arrested for using or possession or got a DUI from driving while stoned. I've never blacked out from smoking weed (though there were times where I was completely blitzed) or got in a fight or woke up in the morning next to someone I didn't know. I spent some money, but no more than what people spend on various "hobbies". As long as I could pay the bills and all, who cares what I do? I thought the only problem was that pot was illegal. I had taken some risks at times, but nothing too risky. Not like I was running a meth lab or something. I could always come up with a rationale that weed was not the real problem.

But as life went on, I could see a correlation between smoking weed and other issues. My emotions were all over the place and this often caused me problems in my relationships. I couldn't keep a job or a girlfriend for more than a year. Something f***ed up always seemed to happen due to my lack of attention.  I couldn't think clearly; my mind was always 'rotating' about something. I could tell that I just wasn't living up to my potential. I could see it in my friends, too. They were just like me: doing the bare minimum in order to get stoned that day.

When I was considering quitting and told my dad about my misgivings he said, "Yea, you might not die from smoking weed, but maybe you'll just live a looong miserable life." And, to be honest with you, that scared me more than anything else. I was tired of getting my happiness one eighth at a time and at the expense of everything else going wrong in my life. It just wasn't worth it any more.


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#1, by lou, 12 February 2011 12:11 PM

you paint a articulate picture of being in the throes of addiction
the justification logic of the addict is amazing
nice seeing you around stx

life is wonderful, being sober allows us to participate


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#2, by keith_g, 12 February 2011 04:58 PM

Sometimes even dads get it right.

Thanks stoner_x.

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#3, by sun, 17 February 2011 05:12 PM

Even though I've been clear for almost 10 years, sometimes I still miss it.  I've had fantasies of using again when my kids grow up and  move out in a few years.  I appreciated your saying "I was tired of getting my happiness one eighth at a time."  That reminds me of one of the main reasons I quit.  

I am healthier by far these days and happier too.  They go together.  I don't know if the euphoric recall of smoky days gone by will ever leave me completely.  Coming here to read what others like us have to say about their journey helps me remember why I made the choice to quit and everything I have gained since then.  Thanks so much for sharing!   

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#4, by keith_g, 17 February 2011 07:14 PM

You remind me, sun, of how a long-timer I know shares his story. He frequently refers to some thoughts he has this way: "I heard my addict say to me...."

When I have thoughts like that, I am reminded that recovery is a journey and not a destination, and that I have to Keep Coming Back to MA meetings and the 12 Steps.

Good to hear you're doing well.

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